So as you will have heard me mention though the leaves form the visible foundations of many people.
In fact people beldam base their lives upon.
So what is left is what we are always going to be governed and driven by is establishing law what people
believe is true.
But what actually is true for them.
There's always going to be a huge difference between what people believe is true and what actually is
true.
Right.
Just to set the context for this.
Let's go back to the god idea right.
No if you speak to every single person in the world in an orderly fashion you are going to establish
and discover pretty quickly that everyone in the world has an opinion or some thoughts about God or
whether he exists whether he doesn't exist whether she exists whether she doesn't exist whether he or
she is good whether he or she is bad.
And many people well we attach a label on to themselves in relation to what it is that they fundamentally
believe.
If you think about whether God exists or whether he does things and this instance doesn't make the blinders
but a deference when it comes to establishing the truth about what we believe about ourselves because
we have thoughts about things we get have opinions about things outside of us.
But the only real relevant truth in people's life is the truth is underpinning their very existence.
If that makes sense.
No.
This may sound a little bit philosophical So I'm going to here share with you a story to hopefully help
you understand what I mean by that.
And also we're going to be taken by the direction we're going to be heading through this section.
No this was a story that I heard quite a number of years ago and I've kind of adapted it.
Personalize that just for illustration purposes.
No this takes me back to when I was a child.
I lived in a Scottish town called Dundee done been as famous for juked germ and journalism journalism
which these days and the decline of the industrial era has has declined somewhat.
And John still makes drawbridge and juked I still have absolutely no idea what that is.
So every single summer we used to have school holidays five six seven weeks.
And the Russian circus will always come to time though to be honest with you.
And this was one of these annual family events and I hate the circus.
Bored me.
Take me to the cinema to watch a good movie action movie something like that and I was quite happy.
I am a hater declines.
I was never interested in a tramp in the truck you know truckies artists you guys prance around in legal
terms.
No offence to you if you were a trapeze artist.
The only thing that I found really ever found mildly fascinating was the animals you know like the lion
tamer and the guys that would make elephants do tricks.
I always secretly wondered in oil.
How was that a human being can train an elephant to do tracks.
You stand on its back two legs in all.
Curch biscuits and its in its trunk and all and all those sorts of things.
Those you know the last few years have a concert understand how it is that elephants are trained.
And my findings were as follows.
When a circus is in need of new elephants to build in to its animal circus community it will go across
to one of the African nations where they'll go to some charity or humanitarian animal aid group the
Fanes saves and protects younger baby Athens spear fins whose parents mommy and daddy often have perhaps
been poached and killed so the hunters and these animals could sell their tusks for ivory and all that
sort of thing as this unl with us sexless not have too many opinions about that.
But what I've seen here is that when a young elephant is is it's small.
It's taken then to the main training centre for circus animals and for the first five to six months
it's.
It's touched Pickett has been driven into the ground by a raupp that's attached to the pekka and then
tied noose around the elephant's neck.
No the truth says is that when there is a baby elephant is so small its young is full of beans full
of energy tries to target the kexin and break free from there from the peg.
It's it's kind of got it.
Got it.
Tide is already limited it is physically not strong enough to soar.
After a few months it keeps on hugging tugging and kicking and punching and trying to break free.
And the circus the elephant trainer circus master knows that deal.
It's not going to be ready to begin its training until it gives up the fight until it stops trying to
break free because a circus master knows that once the elephant stops fighting trying to break free
from the peg it knows that the elephant has come to accept or believe that it's just not strong enough
to break free.
So what the circus master has now done is conditioned the elephant no conditioning theory is something
that you can study for the for yourself we're not really going to win too much depth.
No or Pavlovs dogs and all that sort of thing.
Check that out for yourself out of touch a link in the additional material section of this video although
parve loves dogs is a fascinating illustration that shows human conditioning or other more conditioning
because this is kind of how the elephants been trained has been trained to believe that it's not strong
to break free from the peg.
So US little elephant then goes through the circus training and becomes fully grown.
Big elephant walks into into an arena.
They can do tricks subpoena's have been trained all that stuff.
But see if the circus master was to have a bit of rope around the elephants neck and then attach that
to a pickle in the ground the elephant would just sit there and it wouldn't fight it wouldn't try and
break free one even try to move.
Why.
And so you're going to find fascinating because the elephant has taken the belief that developed self
as a child right through to it's truly grown up life as a child the author Ingrid believed that it wasn't
strong enough to break free and no as a fully grown adult elephants because no one's fooled you otherwise
it just accepts that any time that raupp is attached around his neck and that picker is not strong enough
to break free.
So the elephant has been conditioned and in the same way that elephants are conditioned to believe how
strong we are or how capable they are or how able they are as human beings.
We follow the exact same path yes situation circumstances are always going to differentiate.
But the fundamental limits and beliefs remain exactly the same because in the same way that they're
often rude RUDIN You know stand up to try and break free from the from the peg in those is not strong
enough and was just not good enough.
It knows it's not big enough.
This very same limiting belief is what keeps people ensnared in dead end jobs that then completely unpassionate
that they despise because on some level they fundamentally believe that they're not good enough to do
anything else.
If you understand this on one level you're going to understand partially No.
The main problem that people are actually going to be bringing you away as a life coach because they
might say to themselves you saw unsatisfied I'm so bored in my career.
Will you help give me some career coach showing some life purpose coaching.
We helped me get from where I work to where I want to be and you didn't get in place a series of action
steps and that's going to be nice is going to look really impressive.
You may even package these action steps opt in only in the course like this which is going to be great
but if you haven't dealt with the core foundational limiting beliefs and they've already developed because
you don't know what they are then guess what the problems are always going to remain.
You can have the best set of action steps in place but if they're limiting belief that you're future
collisions have developed the boat themselves are as ready as what they've always been.
Then in the summer how great a coach you're going to become.
You are not going to make that difference or you're not going to help them make that difference either.
So I'm hoping that what this story illustrates is that the great limitations that we have in life are
nothing to do with their abilities or our capabilities because the elephant as a fully grown elephant
was more than strong enough to read but that you know Pego with the ground then pretty much trampled
the circus tent to the floor.
If he really wanted to so our greatest problem in life is never our capabilities or our abilities.
The grit is the motivation that we ever have in life are the perceived limitations that we place upon
ourselves.
And these are always going to be caught up in beliefs beliefs thoughts opinions and feelings which were
no hopefully able to see are not necessarily always the truth.
Saw in our next video the self disclose I'm going to be as honest with you as I physically can and I'm
going to put my neck on the line here.
I want to share with you my timeline of learning the limiting beliefs that I developed about myself
over a lifetime in a relatively short and way that I'm hoping that you're going to be able to relate
to the context of your own life and your own beliefs in view of moving forward into the future as a
life coach.
You know they are.
And better understanding the limiting beliefs that hold other people too.
So I hope this makes sense.
We'll look forward to seeing it again.
The next video.